- Start things off to invite her to talk. Pay attention to the scenario, and mold your invitation to the circumstances. Don’t, for example, ask her a random astronomy question when she’s shopping for shoes.
- Ask her some questions. You want to show her that you’re interested in her while at the same time deciding whether she’s really worth your interest. A great question will make her think, laugh, and like you, all at the same time.
- Make yourself look good throughout the conversation. You want to find out as much as you can about her, but you also want to make sure that you show yourself at your best.
- Accept pauses. You’re not going to be able to think of something to say at every point during the conversation, and that’s completely okay. Pauses are a natural part of conversation. Get her comfortable with the idea of pauses by using pauses or deliberations sparingly in your own speech.
- Keep the conversation light. Don’t delve into any controversial subjects or anything that she may find uncomfortable. Also, don’t gossip about other people, because she may think that you’re not genuinely nice.
- Focus on body language. For yourself, use great eye contact, sit up straight and smile warmly. When you do these things, she’ll feel as though you’re focused on her.
- Keep the attention always on her. Let her know that you think she’s important. Don’t be cagey about turning the spotlight on you, but focus it mainly on her.
- End on a good note if she tells you that she has to leave. Tell her that you enjoyed talking to her and getting to know her. If you felt a real connection to her, ask for her phone number. The next morning, send her a text saying that you had a great time, and wish her a good day. You might get a second chance at continuing that initial conversation if she texts you back.